Anxiety at Christmas?

Anxiety at Christmas
Dear December: Why Are You So Stressful?

Anxiety at Christmas? Why? Not everyone looks forward to Christmas with open arms. For some, it’s a tough, lonely, or downright stressful time of year. If that’s you, you’re probably already feeling the pressure to “be merry,” “have fun,” and “make it magical.” Sound exhausting? You’re not alone.

For others, Christmas is a season of joy: twinkling lights, advent calendars, markets, the smell of pine trees and cinnamon, and cosy evenings with mulled wine and hot chocolate. But even for the Christmas enthusiasts, let’s be honest – December is usually way too busy.

So how can we all survive – and maybe even enjoy – this chaotic season? Here are some simple tips to make Christmas less stressful and a little more meaningful.


1. Decide What Really Matters to You

Christmas doesn’t have to be about more – more decorations, more gifts, more events, more stress. Instead, focus on what feels meaningful to you.

  • Love a fully decked-out Santa’s grotto vibe? Go for it.
  • Prefer a low-key, cosy Christmas? Do that.
  • Working through the Christmas holidays? Let others take the lead this year.

The magic of Christmas isn’t in the endless to-do list. It’s in the little things – family, rest, and the traditions that make you smile.


2. Ease Into the Christmas Spirit

Sometimes, the best way to tackle December is to start small. Here are some easy ways to switch into Christmas mode and reduce anxiety at Christmas:

  • Light an advent candle or set up an advent calendar.
  • Bring out a favourite festive scent—think pine, cinnamon, or cloves.
  • Use a beloved Christmas mug for your morning coffee.

Find those tiny rituals that get you in the festive mindset without adding extra stress.


3. Say No to What You Don’t Want

You don’t have to do it all. Seriously.

  • Don’t want to host or visit? Politely say no or suggest a simpler plan.
  • Stressed about gift-giving? Talk to family about Secret Santa or setting budgets.
  • Hate cooking? Scale back or delegate.
  • Tell people close to you about your anxiety at Christmas.

Opting out of things that drain you can make space for the parts of Christmas you truly enjoy.


4. Make a Fun List (Not Just a To-Do List)

Instead of endless “must-do” lists, create a fun list for the season:

  • Movies you want to watch.
  • Books you’d love to cosy up with.
  • Foods you’re excited to try.
  • Take an emotional break

It’s your Christmas – plan for joy, not just chores.


5. Spread Out the Work

Decorating, shopping, and wrapping all at once? Recipe for burnout. Try spacing things out:

  • Decorate a little at a time instead of in one marathon session.
  • Wrap gifts while watching your favourite Christmas movie (top tip: get a tape dispenser!).
  • Shop online or visit local markets to avoid crowds.

6. Think of Others

Slowing down can also create space to help those in need. Whether it’s donating to a local charity, volunteeringyour time, or simply checking in on someone who might be struggling, giving back is one of the best ways to embrace the true spirit of Christmas.


7. Let Go of Perfection

The Instagram-worthy Christmas? Overrated.

  • Your tree doesn’t have to look like a magazine spread.
  • The kids don’t have to wear matching pyjamas for a family photo.
  • Dinner doesn’t have to be gourmet.

Do what makes you happy, and let the rest go.


8. Plan for Next Year (Yes, Really!)

Hate putting decorations away? Same. But taking the time to organise them properly now will make next year so much easier. Label boxes, throw away broken ornaments, and pack things neatly. Future You will thank you.


This December, remember: Christmas doesn’t have to be a whirlwind of stress that adds to your anxiety at Christmas. Slow down, focus on what matters, and give yourself permission to celebrate in a way that feels right for you.

Here’s to a calmer, cosier, and much more enjoyable festive season!

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